FAT vs SKINNY

 This may be a long one more of a vent in what is normal what really is acceptable . What makes people comfortable or uncomfortable about the surroundings with themselves ,others and our own children . Is it easier to be FAT... for say or skinny ?? If we had a choice to be one extreme or another what would you choose to be over weight or underweight.
 I have struggled with this if you know me you know why . It bothers me to a extreme  . I have had brought three beautiful children to this world ,but almost most of their lives they have been judged by being considered by society and many of you to be too small ..... as a baby .Is OK to judge a child what kind of weight does the put on children to judge them so young . Is it not bad enough when they get older to have to fight their why as adults of what a so called "PERFECT" body image .Does the media not beat this up enough then why start so young on having a weight issue weather large or small and really does it need to be issue.
 I can sum up a few of the many things I have heard . Was he / she premature , are you breast feeding or nursing , is their something wrong with your baby (this actually has even came from nurses as I was visiting someone else in the hospital ), do you think your breast milk is any good , how much do they weigh , how old are they now , really that old , WOW , that baby is skinny . ...........my baby has never been that small , have you seen a doctor ......you need to get meat on your bones ... does he /she eat OK ..... I really can tell you so many stories of rude people in counters with me (strangers too as well as many others) I can also tell you my smart ass remarks back too . I can also tell you about my many tears thinking about this and doubt of what I am doing is right or wrong may I the one that has wrong my child and then I come back to think whats wrong  . The frustration of it too me is beyond a waste of my many hours  . Has anyone gone up to anyone and said Oh my that baby is so fat are you sure they are OK maybe you should see a doctor . What are you feeding that kid?? Was he /she over due. .do they have medical problems . Do you feed your child a nutritious diet . Wow do you know the  risks that your baby has being obese , fat , chubby , too big ,. big boned , chunky , large , huge , broad , solid , round ,FAT at such a young age. .
All of my children have been happy and grew at their own rate And still are they all happy and healthy to me. Do we as adults follow a chart of height and weight by public health nurses on a regular basis . No and if we did I am sure we would be all in trouble I am sure . Is their a normal what is normal .Does anyone ever said the person is normal looking average they look good . No just pick on the flaws. Can we not all just be satisfied looking the way we are .
What does size have to matter .  As the old saying goes does size matter
Answer : it shouldn't but it does .
I have no reason to judge you by having a large child please do not judge me with a small child .